Creating Expections

COMMUNICATION REPORT – By Todd

The first aspect of communication is personal pride. Sometimes our pride is too much, and sometimes our pride is not enough. In communicating, it feels like we're taking a great risk, but it is not. What are sometimes missing are the parameters of the relationship. A lack of relationships set up for the future. It is important to suggest topics for the relationship. Somebody must make suggestions about what will be talked about. And then, there is a feedback stage, in which, topics are discussed and negotiated for what will be talked about. Surprisingly, relationships are extremely flexible. It is an error to think that somebody is entirely inflexible, when in fact it was never discussed. The first step is everybody being involved as communication suggestors. In this way, the relationship can be formed. The main thing is to find approval for relationship suggestions, and then possibly at a later time, spend time on the topics. Because everybody approves on the topics, it is a win-win situation over time when the people go ahead and execute their discussions. I learned this by taking a class relationship theory.

Communicating is mostly a task of creating Allied arrangements. Finding people who we can communicate with as a type of investment. This in turn, stems from self investment. The parties grow and use the relationship as an investment into the self. The answer to our questions is often common to questions of the whole group. Being involved in groups helps share information that we cannot get alone. The groups we belong to should show what information we need, and the group is a logical choice to get that information. So, it is logical to discuss group agendas before you join. So that, you join groups knowing what information is there to be had.

All communication is a type of self reporting. The better you self-report, the better you will do. Every day is a task of self-reporting. You are like your own radio station. When alone, we make our communication list. And then, spend time on communication that was previously agreed-upon. There is an aspect of timing -- getting facts before they are needed. The present moment is not always the right time to do what was agreed upon.